Noticing and Choosing What You Want As You Grow Older
A few months ago,I did a panel,and follow-up interview withPrevention Magazine(a magazine which I love,by the way) on aging gracefully.How funny to find myself being a voice for that…
On the panel,as others talked about diet,exercise and how to look young,I found myself getting emotional as I thought about my grandfather,娜娜who had just passed away.I realized,坐在舞台上，that aging gracefully for me meant living with dignity,being of service,and cherishing the relationships in my life.
几周后,I met an upcoming actor from a popular movie,and rather than thinking about how cute he was,felt like an overprotective aunt.I realized the actor was closer to my daughter's age than mine!!
And at my daughter's elementary school,as I sat in on a meeting with mostly Kindergarten and 1st grade parents,I realized,as the mom of a"graduate"and a 4th grader,that not only had most of my creative ideas for our committee already been implemented,but we also had a few years of experience to reflect upon.
I spoke at another a panel last week,当我看着观众中渴望创业的人时，I realized they were on average 10-15 years younger than me.
This past weekend,my husband's cousin got married.当我和家人庆祝的时候，我甚至没有意识到这是我结婚的家庭……相反，after 18 years of marriage,随着时间和共同经历的深入，I was with people I care for deeply and who I am most comfortable with.
Most importantly,my daughter,Tara,turned 13 this month.
现在我阿姨,the older mom,the mentor,还有一个十几岁的妈妈。
And rather feeling old and anxious,I am celebrating my age.
One of the tenets in my new book,,Living with Intent: My Somewhat Messy Journeyto Purpose,和平与欢乐,is to NOTICE.Notice the people and circumstances that show up along the journey,notice your thoughts and feelings,注意你的身体，and notice the messages the universe is sending you.And so,lately I've been paying attention more to what it means for me to age gracefully.
Some things I've noticed:
1。Noticing the effect of sugar and gluten on my body.和朋友们一起洗完澡后，我注意到我的慢性身体疼痛消失了。I hate to admit it,but my addiction to cookies and cupcakes has been catching up with me.I need to honor my changing body to stay healthy,energetic and vibrant for my future.
2.注意到我经常锻炼时的感觉有多好。But also how much I enjoy exercising with friends – walking together,在课堂上开会，or doing yoga with my husband and kids.
3.Noticing what keeps me intellectually stimulated.I'm enjoying reading books again.I'm keeping up on world events.I'm trying to see more movies,go to art exhibitions,and enjoy the cultural events in our city.
4。Noticing who the people are that I want in my life as I grow older.During the holidays,we had a friends stay with us,and I realized that in addition to my kids,我丈夫和家人，these are the people I want to grow older with.It's a wonderfully comfortable feeling.
Another insight has been that to embrace who I am in my mid-40s is so much more empowering that pretending to be in my mid-30s.My body,my relationships,my career have all changed so much in the last decade.是时候拥抱他们了，celebrate them and move forward with enthusiasm and excitement!!
Would love to hear your thoughts on aging gracefully,and noticing the qualities in your life that you want to nurture.Please share!!